Applied Vision

Weight on Weight off

Over the years - friends, family and clients (as well as ‘yours truly’) have said they want to lose weight. People come up with a numerical figure that they want to lose and then do whatever they think will achieve this. Of course I have noticed over the years, that these same people (including myself) may have actually achieved this but have since put it back on - the reason? It’s a negative vision. Whenever we are trying to avoid, prevent or get away from something, this attention and energy just creates more of what we don’t want rather than what we do want. Whether you are ‘losing weight’ or ‘gaining weight’ the subconscious mind gets the message that “it’s about weight” and presto - this is what you get! It may work for a while but will always swing back as you are operating in an ‘oscillating structure’ caused by a ‘negative vision’. It feels like you’re on a ‘band-wagon’ - going up and down, from one to another where sometimes it works and then sometimes it doesn’t work - hit and miss. To get off the ‘band-wagon’, make a fundamental choice to be healthy then identify some concrete, objective, measurable ‘end results’ that will indicate what’s healthy for you (including the weight you are going for). Write this down and it will become obvious to you, what you need to do. Also write exactly ‘where you are’ in relation to what you want (current reality) which will ensure you are operating in a ‘creative structure’, then focus on what you want and go for it! Remember, there are NO EXCUSES - just do it - it works! (Apply this approach to ‘quitting smoking’ as well).

That’s right - there are 3 main choices:
1. Fundamental choices - these are linked to our values and philosophy, for example: choosing to be ‘professional’. To me this means, having the ability to focus on ‘end results’ and not making it about anything else.
Other examples of ‘fundamental choices’ are:

choosing to be healthy (mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually)
choosing to take responsibility for oneself
choosing to be free (physically & psychologically)
choosing to be true to oneself

2. Primary choices - choosing ‘end results’ and to do this, we need to know what we want. These choices become obvious once we have made a ‘fundamental choice’
3. Secondary choices - these are the ‘functional steps’ that support the ‘primary choices’.

Apply to the example of health:
I choose to be healthy (fundamental choice)
What food and exercise etc. support me in being healthy? (primary choices)
Take action by living according to this lifestyle which supports what I want (secondary choices).

Apply this to something you want and let me know how it works for you.

Acceptance doesn’t have to mean resignation. Acceptance is having an understanding that the world is not for us to control. Acceptance is simply, a choice - to control one’s own responses to events outside of one’s control.   Acceptance brings strength and energy, to create a new life.

Tolerance of others and the world around us, comes from tolerance of self.  When you are content and at peace with yourself - you are at peace with the world.  Tolerance is choosing what you pay attention to and how you want to respond, that is true to yourself.

What is your experience of acceptance & tolerance?

I hear people say, they have difficulty trusting others.  You can only trust others once you trust yourself.  “Aahh” I hear you say “THIS is what’s difficult”.  Trusting yourself involves knowing ‘who you are and what you want’.  When you ‘hold on to yourself’ you can confidently go into the world and not lose yourself to someone or something else.  It’s tuning-in to your own inner-wisdom / intuition and trusting what your ‘gut’ tells you - it’s there to serve you and will never let you down.  Let this be your guide in trusting others and the world around you.

I’d be interested to hear your thoughts or experience of ‘trust’.