01 Apr 2010
Feelings of inadequacy and inexperience, leads to self-consciousness.
This is based on a fear of not being seen as ‘normal’, in control of my life. Being likeable and approved by others = the extent to which I am unable to accept myself as I am placing too much attention on surface appearances. ‘Keeping up appearances’ is futile.
So, what are the benefits of self-acceptance?
Self acceptance will reduce any tendency toward gossip and criticism, including the kind that is based on people’s outer appearance on the way they choose to live their lives.
When I accept myself as I am, I will be able to accept others as they are, without lying or using flattery as a means of gaining favour or manipulating
Being aware of what is happening to me and around me.
Accepting our imperfection is perfection!
05 Mar 2010
It’s easy to get off track and lose our way in pursuit of a goal. We start off all inspired and motivated and as soon as we hit a hurdle of some description, we lose focus and get discouraged. If we take our eye off the ball we may forget what we are here for and why we are doing what we are doing. For our lives as well as business, we need to plan ahead, invest in the future, make the types of changes we need to, anticipate what will happen by creating what you want - being creative and taking the right action. When you start making it about anything else, you will lose your soul or the soul of your business. Whatever you do - must have heart. Mindless ambition is soul-less. At the centre of every heart, there is art - innate wisdom, natural talent and infinite creativity. If you’re feeling like you’ve lost your way and a part of your soul - get back to ‘centre’, to the very ‘heart’ of things and go from there.
05 Jan 2010
Make them big so they scare you a little and excite you a lot!
Complete these statements:
“It is now December 2010 and I am…………………………………….”
“It is now December 2010 and I have………………………………….”
“It is now August 2010 and I am…………………………………..”
“It is now August 2010 and I have………………………………..”
“It is now May 2010 and I am…………………………………..”
“It is now May 2010 and I have………………………………..”
Take Action!
Now write the obvious action steps to take for each time-period, that will help you achieve what you want.
Congratulations, you are now on your way to creating a successful 2010!
03 Nov 2009
I have recently been involved in a project that has tested me personally, as well as the theory my business is based on - to the ‘edge’. By focussing on the ‘end result’ and imagining this result already achieved, I have been able to transcend many internal as well as external obstacles to create the desired result. It has tested me (& the theory) in every way, however, applying the principles and ‘hanging with the tension’ has not only saved me but also the project.
You need to know how to work within a ’structural framework’ (as well as manage yourself) so that you can re-route the ‘path of least resistance’ so that it leads to advancement and accomplishment. Only then will the techniques and processes you adopt (true creativity), will work to build a pattern of success. The good news is - the future doesn’t have to be an extension of the past. You can transcend any obstacles in your way by knowing what you want and keeping the focus on your ‘end result’ - no matter what!
Imagine applying the principle of transcendence in your business or organisation in such a way that you and your colleagues redesign the ways you work together by focussing on and creating what you want. There’s more good news - you can begin anew, learning the lessons from the past and embracing new possibilities to achieve results that were previously thought impossible.
I encourage you to ‘keep the focus’, ‘hang with the tension’ (request this ‘tip’ if you want to learn how) and create the result you want. Read the current ‘tip’ to learn more. Please share a similar experience, via ‘comments’ - to encourage others.
14 Sep 2009
Do I belong?
When we ask this question, we are seeking identity - “who am I?” When we have this belief that “I don’t belong” we seek to resolve it to feel like we do belong, however, we create ‘not belonging’ due to being in reaction. Trying to belong is ensuring that we have a place where we belong - “What’s my place? What’s my role?” When someone is aiming to have somewhere to belong, they may join a group, club or cult, however, this ‘re-action’ may confirm their feeling of not belonging.
There is a flip-side to having formed this belief from childhood - it’s not all bad! You will have developed the strength of non-attachment and possess hidden gifts such as being innovative & creative, leadership qualities and able to adapt to change.
To whom do you belong? You belong to your self. You entered this world alone and you will exit alone. We take on many labels & roles throughout our life - son/daughter, sister/brother, parent/grandparent, spouse/partner, cousin, aunt/uncle, worker, etc. Who are we without these labels? We are left with just our true selves. If we belong to something or someone else, our roots are grounded outside of ourselves and if or when these are uprooted, we feel lost and left nowhere. The secret is to transcend these beleifs that limit who we are and what we want. When you are aware of this belief operating, just say - “so what” and ask yourself: “What do I want?”. Then you can take the obvious action that will support who you are and what you want.
Happy creating!
08 Aug 2009
Recently, Tom Merrick from Exceed and Excel - interviewed me re: my ‘take’ on motivation and success.
In the interview, I apply the ‘theory’ to creating a healthy life-style.
Listen to the interview 01-track-1 to learn how you be motivated and create momentum to achieve the results you want in any area of your life.
25 Jul 2009
I have just finished reading a great little book called The Power of Awareness by Neville. It’s a very simple but profound read and it gave me some great distinctions. Basically, the book is about asumptions we continually make, that we need to be aware of. Usually they are negative - what we don’t want - so if we change them to reflect who we are and what we want, we will create it - effortlessly! I love it - It’s so simple! I’ve been practising this technqiue recently and it’s certainly changed things - for the better. Neville has some great quotes such as “Make your future dream a present fact by assuming the feeling of the wish already fulfilled”. If we imagine that we already have what we desire and feel into the feeling as if we’re experiencing it in reality, then it’s only a matter of time and it will manifest. The other quote I love is: “With the passport of desire on the wings of a controlled imagination, she travelled into the future of her own predetermined experience” - so I’m going for it! We all have the power to determine our own assumptions. This represents true freedom for me - assuming I already have what I want.
14 Jul 2009
There is so much data, information, people, subjects, experience coming to us every day - potential for expansion or contraction due to overload? The fact is, it’s up to us. Creating the results you want, is directly related to where your focus is. To thrive in our complex world, we need to be conscious of what we are paying attention to, as “our focus creates our reality”. When life is not going the way you want it to be, become aware of where your focus and energy is and shift it to what you want. Knowing what you don’t want, means that you will be creating the very thing you are wanting to avoid: “what you resist persists”. Out of all the activities you manage in a day, week, month, year - what’s important and good? What do you need to drop? Remember, life is meant to be fun! It helps to do an ‘ecology check’ from time to time, by asking this question: “what supports me, others, as well as the planet”?. Then you will be ‘beating a drum’ that has the rhythm and flow to give you energy and create a ‘path of least resistence’ toward creating the results you want.
06 Jul 2009
There are certain events that we initiate (or are initiated by someone / something else) that cause us a great deal of angst at the time. There is that awful realisation “oh no, what am I going to do - this can’t be happening”. At this point in time, we only see the negative, the down-side, the worst-possible scenario, etc. etc. This happens to all of us, however, there is a question that can turn things around and help us refocus on what we want: “what’s right about this that I’m not getting?”.
Recently, I mistakenly deleted some information from the computer. A sense of dread came over me as I began to fear the consequences. Because I believe things happen for a reason and trust everything will work out for the best eventually - I remembered to ask this question and immediately, the answers came to me (as they are usually obvious). I then started to refocus my attention on what I wanted which gave me the energy and motivation to take the right action to support this ‘end result’. I am pleased to say, it had a good outcome, proving to be more beneficial than if I hadn’t deleted the information in the first place!
So, the next time something happens that you don’t want, ask this question - there’s nothing to lose and everything to gain! You may also discover something interesting and even important, that you previously overlooked.
Let me know what you think - from your own experience.
22 Jun 2009
Fake it ’til you make it
Start acting as if you already have what you want.
If you start by creating a state of happiness and abundance, then do the things you are inspired to do from that state of being - you will end up having all the things you ultimately desire?
BE, DO & HAVE everything you WANT - starting NOW!
To learn more, obtain Jack Canfield’s Book “Success Principles” as it contains 64 ’success principles’, including the powerful success strategy of: ‘Acting as if….’ (you already have what you want).
Also, check out my topic on ‘Creating Success’ - request via the Tips page. This article includes other tips to creating success.
