05 Jul 2010
Many years ago, the buzz term was ‘problem-solving’ which was later disguised or replaced as being ‘solution-focussed’. This is the ‘wolf in sheep’s clothing’ or if you like - ‘mutton dressed up as lamb’. In other words, they are the same thing - two ends of the same stick. Whether you are calling it ‘problem-solving’ or ‘solution-focussed’, the energy and attention is on the PROBLEM, so whatever action you take, will be in REACTION to the situation/event/person rather than CREATING what you want.
Next time someone comes to you saying, “There’s a problem” or “I have a problem” - STOP - you don’t have to go into ‘fix-it’ mode. Instead, say: “Before you tell me about that - what outcome do you want?” This question shifts their focus from the PROBLEM to CREATING what they want. If you listen to the problem, you will have a tendency to solve it by coming up with some solution that is in reaction to what they are thinking and feeling (psychological tension) about the situation which will only take them away from what they want. Be aware of your own tension around problems and remember, you don’t have to relieve your tension or anyone else’s. By identifying the TRUE END RESULT you desire, the RIGHT ACTION will become obvious. The first or next step will be clear. Take it and you will be on your way to CREATING THE RESULTS YOU WANT.
07 Jun 2010
Once you know what you want, there will be obvious action to take. This action doesn’t need to be a grand plan but rather - first steps that will in turn lead to the next steps and so on. You’ll find yourself in the flow of creating effortlessly.
The process of taking action needs to be informed by the end results rather than your current reality. In this way, you will move from where you are toward where you want to be - creating the future from the future.
If you are stuck in your head, your ‘thinking mind’ is going around and round in circles as you analyse the details. You end up thinking about thinking, rather than taking the necessary action.
If you drop from your head to your heart, you will be in your ‘working mind’. From there you will experience connection to what you want which will give you the energy to complete the tasks that lead to the results you want.
Taking the right action is closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
“To know and not to do is not to know”
03 May 2010
“Limitations live only in our minds but if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless” Jamie Paolinetti
If you don’t know what you want - make it up. Develop a mental picture by visualising it as if it’s already happening. Use your imagination to fill in the blanks and help you connect and identify with what you are going for. When you’re in the world of imagination, become of aware of what you are experiencing via your senses - what you are seeing, touching/feeling, smelling, tasting, hearing? Ask yourself, if you were able to create the result you wanted, what would it look like? What would it feel like? What do you imagine it to be? Write down what you get; draw a picture.
Everyday, exercise your imagination to build capacity in order to see beyond the circumstances and broaden your ability to create what you want. You will develop expanded awareness that will begin to change your world.
“Experience is the result of being in imagination, where you have not yet been physically” Neville
05 Mar 2010
It’s easy to get off track and lose our way in pursuit of a goal. We start off all inspired and motivated and as soon as we hit a hurdle of some description, we lose focus and get discouraged. If we take our eye off the ball we may forget what we are here for and why we are doing what we are doing. For our lives as well as business, we need to plan ahead, invest in the future, make the types of changes we need to, anticipate what will happen by creating what you want - being creative and taking the right action. When you start making it about anything else, you will lose your soul or the soul of your business. Whatever you do - must have heart. Mindless ambition is soul-less. At the centre of every heart, there is art - innate wisdom, natural talent and infinite creativity. If you’re feeling like you’ve lost your way and a part of your soul - get back to ‘centre’, to the very ‘heart’ of things and go from there.
05 Jan 2010
Make them big so they scare you a little and excite you a lot!
Complete these statements:
“It is now December 2010 and I am…………………………………….”
“It is now December 2010 and I have………………………………….”
“It is now August 2010 and I am…………………………………..”
“It is now August 2010 and I have………………………………..”
“It is now May 2010 and I am…………………………………..”
“It is now May 2010 and I have………………………………..”
Take Action!
Now write the obvious action steps to take for each time-period, that will help you achieve what you want.
Congratulations, you are now on your way to creating a successful 2010!
03 Nov 2009
I have recently been involved in a project that has tested me personally, as well as the theory my business is based on - to the ‘edge’. By focussing on the ‘end result’ and imagining this result already achieved, I have been able to transcend many internal as well as external obstacles to create the desired result. It has tested me (& the theory) in every way, however, applying the principles and ‘hanging with the tension’ has not only saved me but also the project.
You need to know how to work within a ’structural framework’ (as well as manage yourself) so that you can re-route the ‘path of least resistance’ so that it leads to advancement and accomplishment. Only then will the techniques and processes you adopt (true creativity), will work to build a pattern of success. The good news is - the future doesn’t have to be an extension of the past. You can transcend any obstacles in your way by knowing what you want and keeping the focus on your ‘end result’ - no matter what!
Imagine applying the principle of transcendence in your business or organisation in such a way that you and your colleagues redesign the ways you work together by focussing on and creating what you want. There’s more good news - you can begin anew, learning the lessons from the past and embracing new possibilities to achieve results that were previously thought impossible.
I encourage you to ‘keep the focus’, ‘hang with the tension’ (request this ‘tip’ if you want to learn how) and create the result you want. Read the current ‘tip’ to learn more. Please share a similar experience, via ‘comments’ - to encourage others.
14 Jul 2009
There is so much data, information, people, subjects, experience coming to us every day - potential for expansion or contraction due to overload? The fact is, it’s up to us. Creating the results you want, is directly related to where your focus is. To thrive in our complex world, we need to be conscious of what we are paying attention to, as “our focus creates our reality”. When life is not going the way you want it to be, become aware of where your focus and energy is and shift it to what you want. Knowing what you don’t want, means that you will be creating the very thing you are wanting to avoid: “what you resist persists”. Out of all the activities you manage in a day, week, month, year - what’s important and good? What do you need to drop? Remember, life is meant to be fun! It helps to do an ‘ecology check’ from time to time, by asking this question: “what supports me, others, as well as the planet”?. Then you will be ‘beating a drum’ that has the rhythm and flow to give you energy and create a ‘path of least resistence’ toward creating the results you want.
06 Jul 2009
There are certain events that we initiate (or are initiated by someone / something else) that cause us a great deal of angst at the time. There is that awful realisation “oh no, what am I going to do - this can’t be happening”. At this point in time, we only see the negative, the down-side, the worst-possible scenario, etc. etc. This happens to all of us, however, there is a question that can turn things around and help us refocus on what we want: “what’s right about this that I’m not getting?”.
Recently, I mistakenly deleted some information from the computer. A sense of dread came over me as I began to fear the consequences. Because I believe things happen for a reason and trust everything will work out for the best eventually - I remembered to ask this question and immediately, the answers came to me (as they are usually obvious). I then started to refocus my attention on what I wanted which gave me the energy and motivation to take the right action to support this ‘end result’. I am pleased to say, it had a good outcome, proving to be more beneficial than if I hadn’t deleted the information in the first place!
So, the next time something happens that you don’t want, ask this question - there’s nothing to lose and everything to gain! You may also discover something interesting and even important, that you previously overlooked.
Let me know what you think - from your own experience.
22 Jun 2009
Fake it ’til you make it
Start acting as if you already have what you want.
If you start by creating a state of happiness and abundance, then do the things you are inspired to do from that state of being - you will end up having all the things you ultimately desire?
BE, DO & HAVE everything you WANT - starting NOW!
To learn more, obtain Jack Canfield’s Book “Success Principles” as it contains 64 ’success principles’, including the powerful success strategy of: ‘Acting as if….’ (you already have what you want).
Also, check out my topic on ‘Creating Success’ - request via the Tips page. This article includes other tips to creating success.
07 Jun 2009
I have just finished reading a book by Spencer Sherman: “The Cure for Money Madness”. You can read a book review to find out more or listen to a teleseminar if you’re interested. I found it excellent material, for getting clear about old money habits that get in the way of creating what you want. I found the exercises very confronting but revealing. “You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge” Dr Phil McGraw. The first step, is being aware of what’s going on so we are not just in ‘automatic pilot’ with regard to money decisions and transactions. I like the way Spencer suggests ‘taking a money breath’ before we act, to prevent reacting from an emotional base. I have certainly benefited from this read so it may help you as well - check it out! To read more about money stuff - request a free article “Experiencing True Wealth” on my Tips page.
